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"I never looked at any of the comments on articles about Lauren, because I knew what I would find there: questions like, “Why didn’t she just leave?” Because I know that she tried, like so many others. What so many people don’t know—or don’t care to know—is that abuse is about power and control. Lauren’s attempt to leave the relationship was a threat to the power and control that Jerry so desperately wanted over her. In order to regain his position, he ended her life before she could end their relationship. "

It’s not about race, it’s about power and control, it’s about cowards, punks, thugs, i.e narcissists. It’s about coercive control, their number one weapon.

Abusers come in many shapes, colors and attires. They wear suits, uniforms, badges and casual wear. They carry guns, fly kites, paint murals, connect or work for nonprofits (who enable them), masquerade as do-gooders and "prophets". Violence against women is classless and colorless. The judicial system and "law enforcement" are patriarchal, misogynistic, hindering any aid or justice for victims.

I believe it is not "Domestic" Violence. As violence is not domesticated. It is feral. Giving it the title of "Domestic" gives it permission and justification in a patriarchal, misogynistic judicial system that is archaic and antiquated. It is simply "VIOLENCE". The tactics, motives and patterns used to gain power and control over the victim establish the abuse as premeditated. It is a hate crime.

Take all measures. Heed all warnings. Know the red flags.

Recognizing the Signs of Coercive Control

Coercive control is a common tactic in abusers. Learning to recognize the signs is important for your emotional health and physical safety.
1. Isolating you from your support system
2. Monitoring your activity throughout the day
3. Denying you freedom and autonomy
4. Gaslighting
5. Name-calling and putting you down
6. Limiting your access to money
7. Reinforcing traditional gender roles
8. Turning your kids against you
9. Controlling aspects of your health and body
10. Making jealous accusations
11. Regulating your sexual relationship
12. Threatening your children or pets