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This is who a covert narcissist is, and how they react when you run from their violence. These are just a few, of many, texts and emails he sent me. I endured physical, sexual, and emotional abuse for over a year. I finally got him out of my home and life on October 7, 2020 with the help of the Domestic Violence Hotline, a therapist, a lawyer and a locksmith. He is wanted by the authorities.

Countless punches to my head, 2 severe head butts, a punch in the stomach, an apartment completely destroyed leaving me homeless during a pandemic. I was stalked, tracked, terrorized, intimidated, pushed and shoved, forced to stay awake many nights. Isolated from friends and family.

This is why the court granted me a 5 yr Order of Protection.

He is mean, malicious and vindictive. He may come across as kind and charming, making kites, art, murals, and reciting poetry (these are his tools of his trade: A Predator) but behind closed doors he is a monster. He is a textbook narcissist, a sociopath, a pathological liar- no matter what he wears, sings, recites, flies, paints, rides or drives. He’s dangerous. Every post I share on IM FREE TO BE exposes what he is.

So if you think you found something about me online that makes you say “keep her away from me”, know this, I had to go through the courts to get an Order of Protection, not for anything online, but for what he has done to me in REAL life- to keep him away from me- to save my life. You are a #flyingmonkey, new supply. No more. No less. Whether he calls you a metal or a stone (I was his Diamond. He believes women are objects #womanizer), he’s a fake and exploiting you.

Information here explains it all. Educate yourself. The majority of abusers, especially those who have the traits of a covert narcissist, never change. They are predators, sociopaths, psychopaths. They will make promises of getting help but it will never happen. The control, the violence, will only escalate. It is a deadly cycle.

I will continue to add documents to this section. It is critical to know the red flags and see how similar the victims of intimate partner violence and narcissistic abuse experiences are.

The cycle of abuse.

Stop violence against women.

“Of all the life experiences 
and all the wisdom-
have never imagined any
of this could be of
reality - fictional
yes...however sadly it’s


If you or someone you care about is experiencing narcissistic abuse, there is help. The National Domestic Violence Hotline recognizes narcissistic abuse and trauma and is available 24/7 in more than 200 languages. Call 1-800-799-7233 to talk with an advocate.

"Defined by emotional volatility, a lack of empathy, and delusions of superiority and entitlement, Narcissistic Personality Disorder is linked with interpersonal exploitation, rage, and aggression, most often directed at family members. Making matters worse, narcissists compulsively deny their behavior and project it onto the people they hurt, and they frequently cultivate a likable or even do-gooder public persona that belies their ongoing abuses behind closed doors."

“Adults can’t just leave the situation.
Leaving an abuser, especially a highly manipulative and vengeful narcissist, is rarely easy to do. Partners of narcissists, particularly women, are frequently isolated from friends and family, drained of financial resources, and bullied into compliance with threats of assault, withdrawal of support, loss of child custody, and homelessness.”


Emotional Abuse
Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Antisocial Personality Disorder
Intimate Partner Violence
The Freedom Grill
Intimate Partner Violence Awareness
Domestic Violence
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