OOP
The abuser wants to go in peace, hoping the victim will remain silent. In the drawing above the victim is quoting the abuser. He always said "Nigga, are you crazy". She is mocking him in this drawing. Once the abuser realized he was being held accountable for his violence he wished to “go in peace”. In the abusers mind the violence is normalized and the victim is deserving of it.
Extreme jealousy.
Possessiveness.
Unpredictability.
A bad temper.
Extremely controlling behavior.
After a year of abuse, I spent two weeks with professionals planning my escape. Getting the perpetrator out of my home was agonizing. In the final days he sent me an article regarding the legalities and challenges of having a boyfriend removed from your home. This- after suffering his abusive, violent behavior. I remained calm. Coaxed him out long enough to get my cat, which he never noticed. The next day he sent me an email stating he was leaving, I knew he planned to return. I had to figure him out, to save my life. On both occasions there were people looking out, letting us know when he was coming and going. It was a team effort. We had a locksmith on call. I was having locks changed when he returned. I was silent, held the lock so he could not turn it, while covering two holes from screws taken out. The locksmith was downstairs getting tools and let us know when the perpetrator left. The petition for the Order of Protection was filed.